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another life update.

So much can happen in just a few months. The last time I visited this space, I was a day away from my 29th birthday. Since then:


I got married, for one. After a year’s worth of planning and stress eating, our wedding finally came and went. They’re not kidding when they say the day of goes by so quickly; it was over before I knew it. And while I had so much fun and was so grateful to be surrounded by family and friends, I’m kinda glad it’s over. Wedding planning was (in my humble opinion) not fun. Now it’s back to business as usual, since married life is essentially the same as non-married life.



We just got our proofs over the weekend and I absolutely love how they turned out. Our photographers are amazing and I completely recommend them for any in the Chicagoland area — or out of state, they love to travel!

And speaking of travel:


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This past summer, a good friend of mine jokingly said he needed a date for a wedding in Phuket because his girlfriend couldn’t make it. I jokingly said I would totally go with him. That eventually turned in a serious conversation about how I would actually go with him because well… why not? I’ve never left North America and suddenly an opportunity to travel to Thailand of all places had presented itself. So a few weeks ago, we bought our tickets and are officially headed out the first week of December.

I am equal amounts excited and nervous for this trip. I’m glad that despite the cost I agreed to go because one of my major goals before turning 30 is to travel a lot more. And also, I had no real reason to say no. It’s so easy to talk yourself out of doing some spontaneous, for the sake of being practical or responsible. I had some money set aside and I realized I really couldn’t pass up the opportunity. While it’s a shame I can’t share this adventure with Alex, I’m glad I’ll be with a good friend, even though we’ve never traveled together before.

I’m hoping to utilize this space a bit more. I sound like a broken record, but I’ve been itching to write for myself more. I have this tendency to draft things and let them sit, unfinished and forgotten. It’s a side effect of being a perfectionist and also being hesitant to put certain thoughts or feelings out there for everyone to read. But I’m hoping to break past that. With the end of 2015 coming up quickly and my 30th birthday looming next year, there’s plenty I want to accomplish and write out. So I’ll consider this a baby step in the right direction.


this is not a wedding blog.

And it won’t become one, I swear! But I AM engaged and thus, have been planning my wedding. Right off the bat, I poured over Pinterest for DAYS, trying to comprehend how much time, effort, and money this was going to take. I’m relatively laid-back and I haven’t been to many weddings lately, so I had no idea where to start. Cue me becoming overwhelmed and Alex taking my phone away.

I’m really lucky that my future husband is incredibly patient with me and also wants to be an active participant in the planning process. Like I mentioned in my last post, we’ve managed to find a venue AND a caterer, two things that I consider to be pretty freaking important. Getting both of these locked down has only been possible because we’re planning this together and know what we want.

So, I’ll start with our venue.

We looked at quite a few. mostly because I did tons of research like a crazy person. First, we were open to the idea of restaurants that doubled as event spaces. There were two specifically we really liked and were among the first to look at. The only problem? We’re having a pretty small wedding (no more than 100 people) and these venues, while they provide seating, tables, glassware, and food, all have minimums in place that need to be reached. Because of our wedding’s potential size, there was no way we could reach said minimums without ordering way more food and booze than we would probably need.

And so, onto the next set of venues, which were most loft spaces. I love the idea of getting married in a loft space (because I love the combination of brick and wood throughout) but again: these places were really big. One was so huge that we only would have needed about half of the event space, but would have still paid the same price. I was almost ready to give up hope and resign myself to a hotel ballroom, but we saw two more venues. And of course, the very last one was my favorite, for lots of reasons: it’s the most reasonably priced, has enough space for both the ceremony and reception but is the perfect size for our wedding, and is in a convenient location.


The backroom of Floating World, where we’ll hold the ceremony, then dancing and drinks after dinner. The paper lanterns are included!

So it’s been decided: we’re getting married at Floating World Gallery in Lincoln Park. I never thought I’d be getting married in an art gallery, but it really is perfect for our needs. I would have thought it would be a hidden gem of sorts, but it’s actually quite popular. So popular that their Saturdays were all booked up by the time we found it, so we compromised and settled for a Friday. September 25th of next year to be exact.


I didn’t take a decent picture of the front room, but this shot by Steve Koo showcases how beautiful it is. Love the brick wall and warm colors!

As for our caterer, Alex took care of contacting our first choice caterer, including squeezing in a tasting with the owner before we signed our contract and made it official. Our caterer only does smaller weddings (no more than 120) and only one wedding per day (unlike others, who might take on multiple weddings a day with different teams). Once again, totally perfect for our needs.

Between the two of us, we’ve pretty much been on a roll but are currently on a break from planning due to the holidays. We’ll pick up in January; I think I even talked him into attending Indie Wed with me. It probably helps that this event is within walking distance of our apartment.

So before I even think about flowers, color schemes, and bridesmaid dresses, I’m going to enjoy my favorite holiday first. :)